Comments on: Cesareans Don’t Just Scar Your Skin

By: Friday Favorites — Musings of a Marfan Mom

Friday Favorites — Musings of a Marfan Mom — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 07:27:28 +0000

[...] aspiring midwife who just found out she’s pregnant with her 2nd child. I really enjoyed her post Cesareans Don’t Just Scar Your Skin. I think the grief that can accompany a c-section isn’t something that is talked about…like [...]

By: Natalie

Natalie — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 16:15:16 +0000

My mother had an emergency c-section for undiagnosed placenta previa. Nobody explained beforehand what was wrong, and even afterwards nobody took the time to make sure she really understood why it had been needed. She was never able to carry a pregnancy to term afterwards, and has always blamed the c-section.

I haven’t had a c-section – I’m very thankful, my labors were 25 and 23 hours, so I could’ve well had one had I had hospital births – but I know how true this is from listening to my mother’s pain even decades later. That is a huge part of why the cesarean epidemic IS a big deal.

By: Sona @shh_she_sleeps

Sona @shh_she_sleeps — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 14:46:13 +0000

Hey I had to change my URL… Can you replace the link w/ http://www.whilesolsleeps.blogspot.com

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 05:15:44 +0000

Thank-you for sharing your story and the stories of all these wonderful women.

I have had 2 cesareans myself, the second being just over 3 years ago. It was an unnecessary cesarean where the doctor had no intention of me having a VBAC and bullied me into it; the healing process has taken time. A big part of my healing occurred during my doula training when my daughter was a year old, and later starting an ICAN chapter in my city.

I think you are much stronger than I was when I was preparing for my VBAC. I stayed with the same OB and didn’t listen to the voice in my head about considering looking into finding a midwife. I really hope you end up having a beautiful, empowering and healing VBAC.

By: Bobbi Janay @When did I go from a kid to a grown up?

Bobbi Janay @When did I go from a kid to a grown up? — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 19:36:36 +0000

I hear you, that everything leaves more then just physical scars.

By: Kayce

Kayce — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 00:47:45 +0000

I am so sorry sweetheart. One of my clients in a previous birth was “naturally” induced and ended up with pitocin and a very traumatic birth. She was able to have a beautiful birth with her second, and let her body do what it needed to do without kick starting it.

You will have an incredible birth with your next hun. You are already so far ahead of most women. You are amazing luv.

By: Kayce

Kayce — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 00:46:04 +0000

I so wish there was more help after a cesarean by practitioners. They seem to think that as soon as you are physically healed, everything is great

By: Chrystal

Chrystal — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 00:32:13 +0000

My story is so similar to @SylkoZakur’s in so many ways. Irregular/Unusual contractions, hours and hours (five for me!) of pushing. Except for instead of medical induction, mine was castor oil because I was IMPATIENT and miserable. I hate myself everyday for the decision that I made to take that tablespoon of castor oil. I believe that it is what began my labor (too soon, even if I was 41w5d) and set the wheels in motion for a baby that wasn’t ready to be born, couldn’t get through the birth canal, resulting in a c-section that I will always hate and always regret.

By: Sylkozakur

Sylkozakur — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 22:00:30 +0000

I still second guess very decision made with that birth. What could I have done to make it better? What if I had pushed to wait on inducing? Etc… I try to Console myself with the fabulous baby I have who is still breastfeeding at over a year old, but I still have regrets. For the first month, I was angry at myself, at my doctor, at my doula (who was right about inducing too early), at my husband. Never angry at Lucas, though. He was innocent.

Doctors have no idea the mental anguish a c section can cause.

By: Sona @ssh_she_sleeps

Sona @ssh_she_sleeps — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 21:57:49 +0000

Sitting here in tears. When I was preparing for my birth I learned all about c section risks and recovery. Not once did anyone, not even my birthing class instructor or midwife mention the emotional scars it would leave.

So grateful to mom’s like you and the others mentioned in this post, who have helped make my journey to recovery a lil smoother and a lil less lonely.